Sitting across from a loved one whose memory is slipping can feel like being on unfamiliar ground. The ease that once defined your conversations is gone, replaced by pauses, uncertainty, and moments that don’t make sense. If you’ve felt that discomfort, you’re not alone. Dementia doesn’t just change memory—it changes how we connect. But even in the face of these shifts, connecting with loved ones with dementia is still possible. You just have to find a new rhythm.
Focus on Feelings Instead of Facts
As memory fades, emotional recall often stays strong. That’s why statements that tap into feelings tend to resonate more than ones that demand memory. Rather than asking for a specific recollection—like “Do you remember our trip to the lake?”—try saying, “I think of you whenever I hear the water lapping on the shore.” Emotional cues often spark a deeper, more instinctive response than factual ones.
Don’t Be Afraid to Follow Their Lead
You might find that your loved one’s words jump around or include ideas that aren’t based in the present moment. That’s okay. Conversations don’t need to follow perfect logic to be meaningful. If they insist they have somewhere to be, even if it’s not real, you can respond with understanding: “You always were someone who liked to be on time. Let’s sit a few more minutes before you go.” You’re validating their experience without arguing or correcting—an approach that fosters calm and connection.
Words Aren’t the Only Way to Communicate
Sometimes the most impactful moments happen in silence. Holding hands, brushing their hair, sharing a bowl of fruit—these quiet gestures say a lot. Dementia may make verbal exchanges harder, but it doesn’t eliminate the need for closeness. Being physically present in a gentle, calm way creates a sense of safety that words often can’t.
Lighten the Mood When You Can
Laughter may seem out of place at first, but humor can be one of the most powerful bridges. Whether it’s chuckling over a mispronounced word or a funny story from long ago, shared amusement reminds you both that joy is still very much within reach. Look for those little windows of humor—they’re often what turn a hard day around.
You’re Not Meant to Do This Alone
Supporting someone with dementia is an act of love, but it can also be draining. If conversations have started to feel like one more thing you have to “get right,” it may be time to bring in extra support. Compassionate care can offer both your loved one and you peace of mind, and help you reconnect without the pressure of managing every detail alone.
At Comfi-Kare Homecare, we help families across Silver Spring, Potomac, Bethesda, and throughout Montgomery County feel supported through in-home dementia care that emphasizes understanding, empathy, and connection. If you’d like to explore how we can help create more meaningful moments with someone you love, reach out to us at 240-750-6617. We’re just a phone call away when you need us most.