The way a person with dementia experiences the world isn’t always based in our current reality. Perhaps one of the most heart-wrenching yet profound experiences you might encounter is shifts in time in a loved one with dementia, otherwise known as time-shifting. This isn’t just forgetting what day it is; it’s a total immersion in a different era of their life. For example, maybe you are sitting together at the dinner table, and unexpectedly, your older loved one thinks they’re a teenager waiting for their parents to come home. It is confusing for them and can be equally baffling for you. But understanding time-shifting can help make those moments more manageable—and even meaningful.
What Is Time-Shifting?
Time-shifting happens when a person with dementia perceives themselves as living in an alternate moment in their past. Beyond reminiscing, it’s a strong, genuine belief that they’re currently in that particular time frame. For them, the present moment fades, replaced by vivid memories that feel as real as today. They can call out for individuals who passed away years ago or refer to events that occurred decades earlier like they were happening now.
How to Cope With Shifts in Time in a Loved One With Dementia
When time-shifting happens, it is instinctive to want to correct the person’s perception, to gently remind them that they are here, with you, in the present. However, we know that this approach often results in frustration, distress, and confusion. Instead, try stepping into their reality. Validate their feelings, identify what they’re expressing, and respond with empathy. If they’re worried about an appointment with their parents, for instance, you might say, “It sounds like you really care about being on time. They must have meant a great deal to you.” This response can offer comfort without having the jarring reminder that their parents are not around anymore.
Creating Connection Through Their World
Time-shifting may be a way to create moments of connection with the individual you love. Ask questions about the time period they are immersed in, like, “What is something you’re excited to do when your parents get home?” Questions like this can prompt storytelling that engages them while giving you a richer knowledge of their past. You might hear stories you’ve never heard before or learn things that bring you closer.
Looking After Yourself
It’s critical to understand that time-shifting can be exhausting for you emotionally. Seeing a loved one drift into another time period that you don’t understand can make you feel lost. Be sure you have support, whether from family, professional resources, or friends. Joining a support group for caregivers could also give you worthwhile tips and camaraderie from other individuals who know very well what you’re dealing with. Remember, you do not have to do this alone.
Let Our Dementia Care Specialists Help
Though we realize how hard it is, time-shifting moments offer a window into the life experiences that have formed the person you love. And we are here to help you every step of the way in being a caregiver for a person you love with dementia. Our professional care specialists are fully trained and experienced in the unique nuances of dementia and are available to assist in Gaithersburg, Bethesda, Silver Spring, and the nearby areas. Contact us online or call us at 240-750-6617 for a complimentary in-home meeting to learn more.