You ask an easy question: “What would you like for breakfast?” But instead of a response, you’re met with hesitation, confusion, and a lengthy pause. You have most likely experienced times like this while caring for someone with Alzheimer’s, where words seem lost and conversations feel more like struggles than connections. When verbal communication starts to fade, it is very easy to feel at a loss. But the truth is, connection doesn’t rely solely on words.
I’ve seen firsthand how nonverbal strategies for Alzheimer’s care, like holding someone’s hand or patting their arm, can transmit reassurance and love far more powerfully than words ever could. These moments remind us that communication does not end when words fail; it merely shifts to other forms. Nonverbal communication becomes the bridge that allows us to maintain meaningful connections and ensure a senior loved one with Alzheimer’s feels supported and understood.
Why Nonverbal Communication Makes A Difference
Alzheimer’s makes it challenging for individuals to select the words they want and sometimes even understand what is being said to them. However, their emotional awareness often is still intact. What this means is they are able to sense frustration, joy, love, and calmness, even though they cannot articulate these emotions. Nonverbal communication bridges the gap, allowing you to express understanding, empathy, and reassurance without words.
Easy Nonverbal Strategies for Alzheimer’s Care
Here are five nonverbal ways to connect to someone with dementia:
- Eye contact: Meeting someone’s gaze is often incredibly grounding. For an individual with Alzheimer’s, eye contact communicates that you’re engaged and present. It helps them feel seen and valued, even though their memory struggles to recall you.
- Facial expressions: A smile or a calm, reassuring expression speaks volumes. Your face can show emotions that words may be unable to convey, for example kindness, patience, and understanding.
- Body gestures: Open, inviting posture shows you’re accessible. Avoid abrupt movements or crossed arms, which can be regarded as impatience, frustration, or even anger.
- Touch: A warm hand on the shoulder, holding their hand, or a gentle pat on the back can convey love and comfort. Touch has a way of bypassing confusion, reaching straight to the heart.
- Modulation of voice: Whether or not your words are understood, your tone is. Speak softly and warmly, as it could help reduce anxiety and foster a feeling of calm.
Activities That Encourage Nonverbal Interaction
Participating in simple, shared activities can enhance nonverbal communication. Try brushing their hair, listening to music, or drawing together – moments that do not need words. It’s about being present and creating shared experiences.
For example, many people with Alzheimer’s respond well to music. Singing or playing familiar tunes can spark joy and provide a way to connect that feels uplifting and easy.
Watch for Their Nonverbal Cues as Well
Communication is a two-way street. Your family member is probably sharing their feelings nonverbally, too. Learn to recognize their cues:
- Gestures: Pointing or reaching for something may be their way of indicating a need.
- Facial expressions: A furrowed brow may indicate annoyance or distress, while a grin can signal happiness.
- Sounds: Humming, sighing, as well as other vocalizations can convey feelings when words don’t come.
The next time you’re struggling for the right words, remember, silence is not the lack of communication. It’s a chance to speak with your eyes, your hands, along with your heart. After all, some of the most meaningful connections do not require words at all.
Want Additional Help and Resources?
At Comfi-Kare Homecare, our caregivers are experts in caring for people with Alzheimer’s while supporting those who love them. Give us a call at 240-750-6617 to learn more about our skilled Alzheimer’s care in Silver Spring, Potomac, Bethesda, and throughout Montgomery County.